New guy with a strange fetish

[strangeguy]

Hi,

I am a guy who has just discovered that I have a little strange variation of what is normally a non-BDSM fetish. This little thing is perfectly legal but it plays with extremely intense cultural taboos and human weaknesses in such a way that it (even unintentionally) seems to cause a dominant/submissive relationship between me (dominant) and the female (submissive). It also leaves the female feel very objectified.

I am a little shy to tell exactly what it is, since even if I am pretty sure that it would not violate the rules from an objective standpoint, it could cause offense and I am not interested in being banned right away or have a flame war.

I tried to talk about it on a forum that deals with this non-BDSM fetish but since my variation of it seems to inflict some sort of dominant/submissive quality on the whole thing, the vanilla people on this other forum almost flamed me to death. Despite their own fetish being quite kinky, they could just not deal with my ideas, even if I tried to formulate them as politely as possible. Especially, feminists and PC-people got really nuts about it, so they started a holy flamewar against me. I wasn't banned because I did not violate the rules of that forum and the mods were friendly enough to admit it.

So, I guess that my first question is, is it OK to talk about violating cultural taboos regarding certain human weaknesses in such a way that it causes a dominant/submissive relationship on this site?

Some basic info about me: I am 30 years old, white male, live in Europe. My normal manners are nerdy, shy, and polite but because of my kinky little special interest, it seems like I am extremaly skilled in the art of causing extreme cultural shame (even in private) and some sort of submission on a certain group of females (it's not an ethnic/cultural group), due to a formal/clinical engineering approach and a large body of knowledge of certain human weaknesses. I believe that I can do this just by talking/typing in a way that is polite, non-judgemental, and friendly but it violates strong taboos and gauges normal human weakness thus causing submission and possibly also shame (not really my intention but I did not invent the taboos).

best friendly regards,

Strangeguy

[Sir_Russell]

First we piss off a lot of so called femiinists here, second we are about D/s in all ways

The mods here won't allow flaming because of your ideas. So either tell us what it is or we can't help you understand .

Russell

[anonymouse]

Hello and welcome, Strangeguy.

Your post certainly has me intrigued! Taboos are a fascinating subject and you'll find the members here to be open-minded and tolerant in any discussions about them. Whatever it is you do, it may well hurt but as long as it causes no harm, I see no problem. Have fun!

anonymouse

[strangeguy]

Basically, I am a guy who is really attracted by BBWs (Big Beautiful Women)...

Edit - I have moved this post, and the replies to a new thread to facilitate proper discussion.

The new thread is here - http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=9379.

Please continue to use this thread to welcome strangeguy, and go to the link above to discuss his fetish.

cariad

[TomOfSweden]

Basically, I am a guy who is really attracted by BBWs (Big Beautiful Women)...

God you had me worked up. I thought you where some kind of neo-nazi or pedophile or something.

You're definitely among friends here. Even though we might not share your fetish, I'm sure none of us will judge you negatively for it. It wouldn't surprise me if there are plenty of BBW lovers here.

Take care and welcome.

[anonymouse]

Oh, is that all? I thought you were really weird.

Your fetish falls under the umbrella heading of 'humiliation play', in case you didn't already know. As a BDSM activity, provided it's concensual between you and your partner, it's no more a taboo than forced sex fantasies and play or some types of age play.

anonymouse

[strangeguy]

Oh, is that all? I thought you were really weird.

Well, at the fat friendly forum where I talked before, I got really angry responses. Probably because the females at that forum felt humiliated, and that was not the purpose of that forum.

Your fetish falls under the umbrella heading of 'humiliation play', in case you didn't already know.

Thanks for telling me. The strange thing is that I never really intend to humilate anybody, it seems to come as a side effect

[cariad]

Welcome strangeguy, you had me worried when I first started to read your introduction, and now I have to say that I stand with anonymouse in saying

Oh, is that all? I thought you were really weird.

Anyway - extending a warm welcome to this site, and that welcome will remain as long as you continue to be polite, courteous and respectful of other members. Is actually quite hard to get yourself banned here, unless you delibrately break the rules.

Thank you for your contributions so far, and I am pleased you have decided to join us.

cariad

[angelic.zest]

Hello and Welcome!!!! very interesting fetish!! im a plus size gal and enjoy all my body lol...and thats great someone loves a chick with alittle extra meat on her bones ....

kurixxx

[Mishka]

I am glad to see that not all females in this community are rail thin

Sure aren't. And not all females like the ripped muscle type... yummy extra flesh.

You seem pretty harmless to me, as long as your sub likes a Dom who pays so much attention to her that way.

Warm welcome.

[anonymouse]

There is a most exquisite photography site on this particular fetish that I encourage Strangeguy to visit:

Birds of Paradise

BBW is a common acronym within the porn and BDSM world -- an impersonal acronym. The site above (I think) defines the 'beautiful' part of BBW.

My feeling also is that you (Strangeguy) encountered the problems you found quite simply because you unintentionally imposed your own aesthetic into groups that weren't designed to be receptive of them. Cariad has mentioned as much above, and I also now see you've dipped you toe in the personals forum. I wish you well in your search. Alas, it's only my bum that is big I personally don't mind to admit that anymore. The 'scene' has been a good place for me to gain perspective on such superficial things.

anonymouse

[ceegee{Benz}]

There are quite a few in the lifestyle that love BBWs so i dont really find it that strange

oh and hiya and welcome to the forums
cg

[suchaminx]

~smiles~

hello and welcome to the forums, have fun exploring and good luck on your search

minx

[strangeguy]

Hi guys and gals,

I just wanted to thank everybody that has welcomed me here. I feel much more welcome now and a bit encouraged, so I will probably post a little bit in the other thread to give some examples of kinky obesity related questions that I have figured out during my involvement with the fat acceptance community.

best friendly regards,

Strangeguy

[Flaming_Redhead]

[~hellish one~]

[Rhabbi]

Hello and Welcome StrangeGuy, so you are a chubby chaser, there are a few of us around, though I do not know if I really qualify anymore. As I age I find that my tastes are more eclectic, though I still think those models need to gain some weight. Curves are wahat all men want, though most do not really know it.

[tessa]

I believe I've welcomed you somewhere around here earlier, but I'm happy to do it again here.

Welcome!

tessa

[Warbaby1943]

Welcome StrangeGuy. This is a great forum to have strange kinks in. Most of us fit in that boat somewhere. Have fun and enjoy yourself.

[BaronVonWinger]

hi & welcome