I am a total newb, both to this site and to BDSM in general. I didn't even realise I was into stuff that would be considered BDSM until about a week or so ago, and I have a few questions about both this site and the community/lifestyle, that you've probably heard before but I really need answering (please!!!).

For context, I am 18 years old, male, and living with parents at the moment. I am pretty sure I am sub (to either male or female, I don't care) though have 0 experience and practically 0 knowledge. I have never been in a relationship, vanilla or otherwise. I am also into ABDL from both a sexual and a nonsexual/emotional attitude.


How did you discover what parts of BDSM you were into, and what parts you didn't like?

If you are limited in terms of freedom (can't order stuff, and no one else to do stuff with) how can you experiment safely?

What sort of protocols can I expect to find in the BDSM community? On this site in particular?

What would you say is the best way to get to know people on this site? I like to get into a community, not just be an object on the other side of a computer screen.