I think your shyness and needing time to trust might just be a really good thing for you!

Rushing into things is the nr 1 reason why new subbies fall for fake Doms and get hurt or disillusioned. If you are being rushed without proper dialogue, then Know that the Dom is playing you.

So, take your time, breathe and learn and ask questions and meet people and even flirt, but keep your submission and trust for those who proves to be deserving.