Submissive and stiffness...

[dynamicbuttler]

This is an interesting question. One of the things I've found fascinating about my love for femdom is that I'm not like most guys. I could get a hard on from seeing a naked girl, but it would be a boring and meaningless hard on. It would have no point, and I'd lose interest. What the girl does is actually MUCH more of a turn on than how she looks. Don't get me wrong. I love good looking girls, especially tall ones with some lean muscle and nice tits and not too skinny or fat, but it's nowhere near as important as what they do. For example, I would rather be with a fat girl who knows how to degrade me and hurt me than be with a beautiful girl who was into vanilla sex and treated me as an equal.

And about fettishes, if you're reffering to femdom and such, sex to me is out of the question if the girl is not 100% in charge. People call it close minded, but it's how I was born. I can't be the boss and I can't eb an equal partner. For me, femdom is an absolute necesity. True fact: I'd rather be with a domme that permanently denied me orgasms (assuming i could jerk off beyhind her back) than have to be with a girl who was a submissive, neutral or even switch.

[gregor2001us]

There is not a simple answer to this for me. I can get hard just looking at a nice lady, just getting tied up, just telling my Domme about a fantasy I had. Sex is great in its vanilla forms, and even hotter if it feeds my kink.

I would say that for me, the more confident a woman is with her sexuality and her dominance, the more turned on I am. If I can percieve that she is enjoying it and doing what SHE wants, the hotter it is for me. But it is more the way she moves, her tone of voice, what she says. It isn't what she does sexually.

But that is my perspective on it and my core kink is to be a sexual slave to women, with me ending up denied a lot of the time. I am sure there are many different perspectives that others have.

Cheers!