Hello, I guess it is safe to say that we have all been through a process of recognising our needs and then accepting them. There are probably as many different stories as there are members, but there are a few threads of familiarity running through most. What I am trying to say is that although you are unique you are not alone.

By all means continue to lurk, but if you wish to get the best out of this place I would encourage you to try to stay out of the shadows and post, and slowly get to know people here. Plunge into the fun and games section, explore ideas in the knowledge section, or exchange PM's with people who seem approachable. Above all, I hope that as you find out at least some of the information you seek, you learn by watching this community that we do not have two heads and the Dom/mes only bite if invited to.


cariad