Soomey,

Welcome and ask away, if someone steps out of line with a newcomer the rest of us will come down hard on that person. Admiting to having these desires and feeling is the first step in discovery and few seem to walk away if they find a good partner and safe practices to follow.

If your interested I have a thread in bdsm knowledge under that is a questionaire that will help you find out what you crave and are hard limits.
I highly recommend it as a first step in assess who you are. Just follow the directions there, if you want I will review it and give you my opinion of what you are after.

Enjoy the experience and open yourself up here in safety and comfort.