Hello Sheilu and to the forums.

Quote Originally Posted by Sheilu View Post
For years I have identified myself as a sub. I have made the mistake of meeting "doms" only to find out they were just horny and looking for a fuck with absolutely no interest in BDSM.

I see where my mistakes were before, but now I find myself in a different situation:
I met someone online a year ago and recently learned he was completely unaware of the BDSM culture. After a little explanation, he ended up assuming the submissive role. I feel I know enough to start this relationship, but I worry that I might not lead it in the right direction. Since I have always been the submissive, this seemed a bit strange, but fortunately, I feel I have taken to this role quite naturally.

I have already instructed him to research and learn about the culture, because that is how I learned. I have found that my research was more beneficial than every meeting I have encountered.

My concern: I have always dreamed of what my ideal Dom would be like, but have yet to experience it. I wonder if I would be able to fulfill that role for my sub.

This is a long distance relationship, and we have not yet met in person. If anyone could lend me an introduction and a direction to head, it would help lots.
This was an eye opening intro. I would say that you just need to take it slow, and make sure that you are both suited for each other. I know of a few subs who train Doms, or other subs. And I also know that a sub can find out after a few years that she/he is really a Dom/me.

Either one of these may be happening with you. the first thing you need to figure out is which is true in your case. Then you can ask questions based on that.

But one thing you need to realize regardless, as a Domme you cannot be your dream Dom,. You have to be the Domme that your sub needs.