How do I assert my position?

[TomOfSweden]

Being considerate and submissive, is not always a good thing. One of the first thing I learned as a dom is that subs are quite easy to manipulate into doing things they don't like just because they are submissive. A little later I learned that it is very important as a dom, not to manipulate subs into doing things they don't like. Because they don't like it.

I'd say this guy does everything wrong. He's manipulative, inconsiderate and abusing his domly superpower.

The fact that you at all made this thread shows your great submissiveness. It's a great gift. I suggest giving it to someone who deserves it. That dom will be one lucky bastard.

[Tojo]

As Alex suggested, that guy isn't a Dom- just a manipulative bastard. The world is full of them.

As Tom said,

One of the first thing I learned as a dom is that subs are quite easy to manipulate into doing things they don't like just because they are submissive.

(It's actually pretty darn easy to manipulate anyone into doing just about anything, but never mind that...)

My comment would be that you've already said everything you needed to & more to this guy- he obviously won't take no for an answer.

It seems to me that he was probably never a friend, & sure isn't one now- perhaps he's just showing his true colours?

Sometimes a guy can be as nice as pie for months at a time, just waiting for the right moment- sometimes he just loses patience & his true sleazy self comes out.

You know what to do Cadence. All the best- & surely that's what this place is for, to voice our fears & worries. Well done.

[jeanne]

The fact that you at all made this thread shows your great submissiveness. It's a great gift. I suggest giving it to someone who deserves it. That dom will be one lucky bastard.

Well said, Tom. Listen to Tom, cadence. He knows what he's talking about.

Good luck in your search. I hope you find a couple who will appreciate you.