I would have to say for me it is a very natural trait. When I look back on my life, I can see all the submissive tendencies in the way I did things, the decisions I made and the fantasies I had even as a young teen. There was always that need to be controlled, cared for, dominated and even hurt in some way. (joined the Marines at 18!) Of course this led to a couple of pretty destructive relationships, but it has also made me who I am. I never knew exactly what it was until I realized that I am a submissive. Having a 'name' to put on it, a definition, was like finding home for me. My whole life I searched for meaning and for a reason that I am the way I am, always feeling like it eluded me. Not any more. Some people join religions and find themselves. I found myself when I realized that I am indeed submissive. It all makes sense. I wholeheartedly believe that is a natural state for me. I can't imagine being anything other than a sub, nor would I want to!