originally posted by briansmine
What's missing now?
It sounds kind of funny to say this in a BDSM forum but maybe some mention of caring, dare I say love?

If your relationship is only a Dom/me sub agreement you both had better have everything down before you start because that agreement is the foundation of your relationship.

If, on the other hand, you do truly care for each other you can overcome many problems because of that bond. What you will also find is that some things that seemed so important at the beginning, like say, the true definition of dominance and submission, just may suddenly seem not as important in light of your relationship.

Sometimes putting stuff like this into words in difficult. Summing it all up is more difficult but I'll try: If your relationship is more about your feelings of devotion for each other and less about definitions or 24/7 then dealing with the definitions and the 24/7 will come a bit easier.

If this is going to work you have to realize it's not all about ropes and crops and swats. It's also about paying bills, buying groceries, and taking good care of each other.