unsure

[icey]

i like the 'dark side' and enjoy it when people disagree and want to dispute what you've said even though i do feel insecure about it all lol
i also like to take on board what other people say,it's not necassarily that i'll suddenly change my beliefs in fact i rarely do lol but it's always good to look at something from other perspectives,
but i disagree that more experience makes anything someone says more meaningfull or right (if thats what you're saying?) i remember once a very well known and respected Domme of many years experience who ive always admired and almost always disagreed with on just about everything lol saying to me in another forum that just when she thinks she has everything sussed i say something and she suddenly finds herself looking at things all over again and finds me very ''refreshing'' lol and im still not sure if thats a compliment or not!
but anyway no matter how experienced or inexperienced people might be all are as valid other than perhaps the more technical side of things, then 90% of the time i would probably go with experienced IF my instinct told me to (i do have some brains lol)
the unfortunate thing is is when people like the others who have posted here and myself dont always have the confidence to fully say what we want to or are nervous of the outcome and some especially the female subs who tend to be the more cautious probably have more to offer than anyone else...now im totally wandering way off, your fault fetish you sidetracked me!!!

[Pearlgem]

I'm new to the community and not hugely experienced, having only had one very private BDSM relationship and never being part of the 'lifestyle, so yes, I wondered what on earth I could possibly contribute to anyone's comments on here. But you know what, someone wrote with a problem that I just so happened to have direct experience of so I wrote what I knew and from the subsequent replies I could see that I hadn't been ignorant or foolish and had even been helpful. That was very gratifying. I don't expect always to be so 'smart' - I feel like my experience is about used up - but it gave me confidence to at least contribute. If you're the one posing the problem or query or thought, it's brilliant when folk are thoughtful enough to respond and you can judge for yourself how useful the replies are. I enjoy the humour, intelligence and personalities of the people on here, as well as appreciating the help, so I would urge anyone to get involved, respond to your instinct and post with confidence.