welcome to the community, and i've been there, my ex wife is from garland, and odysseus, both her and my current wife have walked away from the lifestyle after some time married saying it just wasn't for them once they had some time trying it. and i took it really just the kink side of vanilla not even really hard core. so go figure the minds of people who tell you one thing only to really mess you up later in trying to figure what to do after wards. anyway 69GhostrRider69, i left the military and moved back to irving texas in april of 97 and been interested in the lifestyle since 1989. i was 19 or 20 at the time. and i'm 39 yrs old now. if you want to talk about anything i'm on the yahoo messenger id:rsjankowski, just leave a note saying your from the library so i dont' confuse it with other stuff. or you can leave me a message hrough the visitor messages in the profiles on this site. and as for sad stories, think we all might have a story or 2 we havent told yet. i've got a couple of my own and i'm sure those that have read the few posts i've made what those are. and if anyone wants to know more. just ask. be prepared for long stories over coffee. or cocoa though--lol.