welcome to the communty, i agree about the hit or miss of the wilderness in relationships, kinda wish the internet was around like it is today but 20 years ago when i realized how much of a dominant i wanted to be. might have saved me a lot of misunderstandings. here is a great place to learn if your submissive, dominant, or a switch and to what intensity your looking for in life. ask away as the only way to truly learn is to research from all resources, and friends here are always a good resource for advice, even if it's taken or not, at least you'll know whats there for you