[QUOTE=craven;771453]Oh and i forgot to mention ladymad, an added bonus of labeling yourself a switch is that it winds some people up lol which whilst not reason itself is always a bonus

he he he he he flicks the fellow switches and awaits their input
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You are quite right, absurd as that seems on an actual Switch list! LOL

But to Ladymad: The best advice I can think of is that you find a couple of Domme mailing lists and listen in for a while, to get the lay of the land, and some inspiration. As I see it, the main thing is to find out what kind of boy you are looking for, what kind of relationship.

Is it, so to speak, the exact mirroring of your own experiences?
Is it pain you want to give, as well as care?
Sex, or service, or both?
Obedience, ownership ?
Full time, part time?

What is most important to you? What are you looking for?

You might say that the feelings for your boy are the most important thing, but it is also very good if you are as compatible in other ways as possible.

If you want to think it over and talk further with people here by all means do so. I would say try to imagine more about what it is you seek.

Do not be disturbed that you have both sides, or if you find you have turned Domme completely either. It actually happens to a lot of people.