thank you all for your replies i am glad that a few people agree with me what BELOVEDPET said though i mostly send private messages to them telling them who i am where i live explain to them that i do have a Master who is also my partner and hope to chat with them in the lobby sometime etc etc then i tell them that i have sent them a befriend quest and hope that they will except it as i said earlier on some members do reply very quickly and say yes other members you dont that is what i call very impolite and very rude as it does not cost you anything to say please or thank you or no thank you now does it and now to WERBORED i would love to be your friend will send a befriend quest to you and many thanks