QUOTE=Diablo;742389]You embrace the fullness of her life, know she had joy and sorrow but grew as a person and lived a long life and celebrated in friends and family. you will honor her memory and as the pain and sorrow fades you will be able to think of her and smile no longer seeing only the sorrow.

I recently suddenly lost my grandmother, my grandfather suffered for 4 months in a hospital slowly dying before our eyes and 5 years ago we lost our 2yo son, if does seem like you will never be able to stop grieving but it will run its course.

It took me 3 years before certain songs wouldn't make me cry thinking of our son or be able to talk about him remembering him for all his joy and not just his lose.





Wow sir, that is a lot to deal with ...BUT I believe you are rite "it will run its course"....I am 40 and lost my husband 7 years coming March...and pregnant and well a 10 month old son.....life sure did give me that curve...it did it took me a good 3 years and a vacation alone to find my true self...ME not wife, mother, sister or daughter ...ME and well it worked ....I was in a rut..and could not pull myself out of it....NOW life is well WONDERFUL....I thank god for wonderful family and friends and my "faith" and lots of journalling helped too...and well never looked back....I see my children growing every day and well SO AM I....SELF AWARENESS..I enjoy.....so before you know it...its 7 years......all the best to all of my BDSM friends and yes take a moment to remember the ones we lost and love dearly .....MERRY CHRISTMAS