I think perhaps I wasn't clear enough in the original post. I'm not talking about those little lies we all tell, little things we hide that become obvious over time...

I'm talking about the big ones. The ones that must be revealed so our Dominants know what the heck is going on with us inside. So they can make informed decisions about how to play with us, train us, treat us. The original example still stands. And I still believe it's abusive on the submissives part.