i have to tell you ...BDSM for me is not all about sex. my Master and i have played numerous times and there has been no sexual connection at all. the latest He has done is explore just how far i will go without calling my safeword and that doesn't involve sex at all.

i cannot help you on the porn part of it all because i rather have the real thing then watch about it. it is not saying that there is anything wrong with you. Just i would lower your expectations of what you want in this lifestyle. when i first started out in it i wanted everything right away and that led me in a different direction but when i wasnt looking my Master found me