i definitely agree about the issues of making a relationship all about sex because for us, it's certainly not (unlike to those who don't really understand the relationship dynamics). And being in love with one's Master is a wonderful and beautiful thing as far as i'm concerned. And i am no less His when we're out in public just at a movie or hanging around with friends (or even driving in the car), and He'll shoot me Domly looks or sneak in a "good girl" comment just to watch me smile because i understand the deeper meaning. i do think it's difficult though, to find that balance, but that's also how i know that He's "the one" is because i feel complete around Him, and i am never not His girl, even though the sexual aspects aren't broadcast constantly to the world. ) ... so after all of MY rambling, haha, it sounds like you just need to find that elusive balance. Good luck!