My hubby usually can take care of himself very well.

However, the one time he was weak was when his mother got sick and then died. Anyone who did not know him would not have noticed any difference in his behaviour, but I knew and felt it was all he could do to keep appearances up and stay "up and running".

During that time, I wanted to shred ANYONE to pieces who acted in a cruel or dumb or insensitive way against him, and probably astonished some people with my reactions. Unless I am around folks I am close to, I normally am rather quiet in r/l.