PinkSugar, I attended ALL of the workshops and had a blast. Jay has so many anecdotes and experiences that he puts you at ease and the group/s that hosted him were all friendly, honest, and very open. It was my first experience as well "in real world" so I completely understand the trepidation (I didn't speak to hardly anyone or participate in anything the entire first day and night), but don't sweat it and don't be a bratty submissive to Jay, or he WILL put you down :-)