We don't have any issues in the areas you mention. Nobody would have any idea of our relationship if they met us on the street. I am respectful and obedient, but that probably just comes accross as a caring relationship. He can put me in place with the raise of an eyebrow.

We don't do any kind of micromanagement. Master gets what Master wants, but he is usually quite content leaving the minutia of the running of our household to me.

When I was working outside the home (I am currently a full-time mommy) Master didn't interfere in my career. He gave me advice when I asked, but all of the details were left to me because, quite frankly, he didn't have the knowledge about my field. I worked hard out of honour to him.

Where we have had problems finding balance is in the parents vs. M/s dynamic. I have very, very strong "Mama Bear" instincts when it comes to my daughter, and that definitely conflicts with my role as a sub. My need to submit is very strong, but I wouldn't hesitate to drop kick Master if I felt I needed to in my role as a mom. I can say that, because he knows it is true.

That is getting better as she gets a little older, sleeps a little longer, and is a little less dependent. I feel like I can put my guard down for an hour or two while she sleeps, so that Mommy and Daddy can reconnect as Master and Slave.