First of all, i agree with what others are saying about anyone who pushes you to do something you aren't comfortable with can shove it. However, it comes down to the fact that bdsm relationships are just like vanilla ones in that you have to find someone you are compatible with. Just because you are both into bdsm and he is a dom and you are a sub doesn't mean you will be a good match up. I have experienced this one first had a few times. Kinky to some isn't kinky to others and what one person might consider very tame and reasonable another person may think is off the deep end and would never consider doing such a thing!

So as with all relationships, we are all different and it takes a bit of time to get to know people. I have found that for a play partner or a trying to get to know each other, the easiest way to see if the kink matches up is a checklist. It's time consuming and can be tedious at times, but it really is the best way to see if your limits match up with what a potential dom expects or wants.

Bluefarie, owned by Master Archeon