How much control do you give up?

[satisfied]

i have given up total control to Sire. We have the same hard limits, so that will never be an issue. i am His slave. i do what He says when He says. Yes i have changed my sexual orientation because He said i would. Turns out that it is possible for me to be turned on by a woman, just not by all women. My bi-sexuality is person specific and no Sire does not expect me to play with people outside of our poly relationship. However if He ordered me to then i would. Yes Sire has all passwords and email info, but guess what? i have His too. There truly are no secrets with us. We tell eachother everything, even if it may not be what the other one wanted to hear. i have the right and am expected to 'parlay' if needed. This means that if He orders me to do something that is going to cause mental or emotional damage then i am to say parlay and explain my fears right away. Obviously if it was going to be physically damaging He would already be aware.

We do not call time out from our M/s relationship. i am His property, He cherishes me. While i do not have the right to tell Him no...if i thought He was capable of doing some of the sadistic things that people come up with then i would not have chosen Him for my Master to begin with.

We do not incorporate safe words into or play...per se...but there is always the possibliity that something within me could go wrong, either metally or physically, and Sire may not be aware of it. In the event that something just went really wrong or even a little wrong, it is my responsiblity to alert Sire. Either by saying Red or in the event that i panic...i would probably just be yelling His name and trying to communicate what the problem is. Sire is always very intuned to how i am doing during a play session. It wouldn't be hard for me to get His attention if need be. However when it comes to pushing me farther during scenes, i tell Him when i don't think i can take anymore and He choose to go just a bit farther...or not. But we like this, i like this. i like getting to the point where it is no longer about my pleasure, but rather totally giving to Him and taking for Him.

In more vanilla things, Sire still has total control. i do what He says, My biggest hard limit is that i will never do anything to hurt another person, regardless of the consequence to myself for disobeying. i can't see Sire ever trying to make me do something like that though, so we are good!

We are happy and this works for us. i would never tell someone else to do the same thing. People have to choose for themselves what is right for them.

Handing over total control goes hand in hand with also having total trust.