IMO, it works both ways. If the sub is expecting a deeper commitment and the dom(me) isn't up for it then she/he should leave. As it would work the other way around, if the sub's intention isn't to get collared.
I agree with pervertedpages, I really don't like the promotion of completion as a person by "getting the ring" or the collar. Although, symbols are important as a representation, not the actual goal.
Collaring is a very serious business and a commitment not to be entered half heartedly. Not so much a question of time but a question of trust (having a depeche mode moment here).
So, to sum up. If the expectations of one of the parties aren't met, he/she should leave.






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