i'm kind of in the same position as Liushka.. have always been more aggressive/dom.. and really found a lot of guys boring because of it.. i met my current partner when he was going through some crazy stuff.. that kind of interfered w/a relationship.. but is a really natural Dom. sorting his stuff out.. that side has kind of been.. clarified in him.. and is sexy as hell. we still butt heads.. bc we're both pretty stubborn guys that each want our way.. but he ends up getting his