it has nothing to do with my mood surprisingly, and more to do with the effect i want, if my boyfriend is being soft or sweet and i want him to be more dominating well i grab him by the hair and act like a brat, he reacts to this immediately usually otherwise its a case of gender, females get my sadistic Domme side, males get my submissive side. what can i say... i at heart want nothing more than to please my Dom and watch a cute submissive squirm under my touch/gaze