I think that as we grow and find ourselves in this lifestyle, we learn that there are parts to ourselves which we are comfortable with, though they may not be something we wish others to know or see. I don't think there is anything wrong with having some insecurities or hesitation about how we present ourselves or interact. I believe it to be more of a defense mechanism, and should not be let down so easily. Too many people go into this gung-ho and end up hurt. Keep true to yourself, and when the time and the One is right, They will see you for all you are, and for Them, your defenses will crumble. All others can take you as YOU chose to give.

I will say this though ... If a Dom/me makes a single judgement about you without taking the time, or giving the effort to get to know you, it isn't your worry if they move along. Only the ones you deem worthy should have the pleasure of being in your life. Trust and respect are earned. And that takes time and patience.