when real life issue hit hard-

[DMskitty]

My Master and I have been through a lot over the last couple of years-we just celebrated our second anniversary and Hurricane Irene hit us- not horrible but destroyed about 10,000 worth of crud. My Masters company was sold and started somewhere new which was not great but atleast once the health insurance kicked in he had a heart attack which really knocked us for a loop. There was not much he could do for about six months and in the betweens was Hurricane Sandy which destroyed everything we had, a car accident that I was badly hurt in....moving being displaced....so we are finding our ways back into the Master sub domain that is hard to "feel" when sex causes chest pains for him and I am scared he is going to die (thank God thats better) or your sleeping in someone else's home for 6 months. So we are sliding back into this and its not easy to find my way back into the submissive feel. My heart and body are there, intellectually I am there...my behavior is not caught up with me yet. I know this is around the bend and I guess if anyone has had to "re-kindle" this portion of their relationships after life interfered how did they do it? thanks in advance

[just_ine]

I would like to bump this thread.
I am really interested to hear some responses to this question.

j

[TwistedTails]

Kitty,

I imagine that a lot of us involved in long term relationships have had disaster interfere with the dynamic. My girl and I have endured a few "ahem" adventures in creative survival strategy. Our relationship evolved to meet the new realities, and eventually so did our dynamic. Give it some time.

Cheers

[Sirs_GoodGirl (Whyteknyght)]

My heart aches for you; hang in there, I have no experience with this but I am crossing every appendage I can in the hopes that this works out and heart, mind, body and soul . soon mesh for you
Please hang in there. You are incredibly strong

[DMskitty]

Good morning all
It's over 6 months since I posted that. We are still in a cottage with no doors, still dealing with Hurricane and health issues but I am glad to say that we have begun to recover the D/s dynamic that wasn't really missing or dormant but definitely effected. Master and I made some adjustments and over and over we made adjustments and we finally found the niche in our lives to fulfill that part of us. I feel that what remained in me as the desire to please but no connection to it has been fixed and it seems to be that he was waiting. He says all I really needed was a good beating. We went to motels, he took me to a party, he found a way to string me up at home...(although my 9 year old nearly caught us so maybe a quieter beating next) I guess if this were a life choice then it would have faded away forever, but it is so much deeper for us both and like Twisted Tails said it has endured

[JuliusP]

That's very good to hear, congratulations.