Switchs please introduce yourselves here

[MajesticFae]

Welcome to the forums JayTC! I suggest posting a personal for an online Dom/Domme, depending on your tastes. Good luck in your search!

[Joeysub06]

Hi there.. well my name is Joe,27 and i have been a switch for quite a number of years now. Currently i and my gf who is a switch herself do enjoy the dual role that we play in our relationship..
I guess by being a dom one day and a sub the subsequent day keeps the spark alive and allows us to explore and push our bodies to its limit.
Our passion lies in breath control,heavy bondage,scarves,cum control etc..
All i can say is its cool being a switch!..

Cheers.

[zasvig]

hello im zasvig
Im new to the whole thang. I am a sub my misstress is my wife, but she wants to be the sub somtimes so on occasion i will have to be the dom i can do it but i prefer to be the sub. im just interducing myself for now and hope to be around a while. hopping to maby find some one to help my misstress she is still a little timmid.

[ursula]

Hello everybody : )

Currently a bisexual in an open relationship with another female switch (I was lucky, hah) and just playing around and learning what I like.

Just came here to help explore more of the bdsm world!

Anyways, I'm sure it will be nice to become acquainted with you all.

[Ozme52]

[Torq]

Gee whats happening,, we've had postings in the Dom area and in the submissive area but NONE in the switches ???? Are there NO switches on the site ??? Come on switches and introduce yourselves !!

[angelic.zest]

welcome ursula!

[ladygstar]

Well many of you on here already know me but there was a cry out from Torq for us to come out and say hello, so here I am!

I joined this forum over a year ago as a sub (different user name then) with my r/l Master of that time. As time has gone on I have realised that I am switch but a switch with a twist... I only dominate the fairer sex... enjoying being the submissive with men - probably not too unusal really.

I enjoy a full, challeneging and independant life and have a strong character and opinions so I delight in being able to give up that control in my sexual relationships with men, however with women I take great pleasure in being able to give them the same pleasures I enjoy in the sub role... nothing nicer than a woman gasping and squealing with the pleasure, and/or pain, I am allowing her to experience.

Well thats enough for now... questions in a pm to....

[Euryleia]

What a great way to write my 1,000 post! I thought I had introduced myself as a switch before but here it goes again.

I'm a lesbian switch. I've been involved in D/s since my first relationship in college. I'm mainly dominant but I do like to occassionally release the reins and just let someone take charge. I've been very lucky to find women who are as willing to take control as they are to be controlled.

Currently single, I've been sublimating my fantasies into stories that I've been posting on the library as well as reading the offerings by other writers. Soon, I'll be able to put my ideas into practice.

[deadbeats]

Hello my name is Dave, I'm 38, single and I've been a switch for well over 20 years. My experience has gone through a number of experience and changes over the years but here's a short run down:

Between 86 and 90 I had two different subs that I Dominated off and on. Also I submited to an old gaurd gay woman for about a year.

Between 91 and 95 I was in a long term relationship in which we switched roles or played without roles. Though it was a more conventional relationship a majority of the sexual activity involved some form of S&M or role playing.

Between 96 and 2000 I had at least four sub that I trained off and on and submited to Doms. Most of these were short lived only lasting 6 to 8 months.

Between 2000 and present my career and fatherhood took up a great deal of my life and BDSM took a back seat. Though I have trained five sub it was mostly through orders outside of scene and was more of a "play" situation. There has been also 3 Doms that I've scened with not more then a couple of times.

That's the basic. I could go into detail but it would take hours.

[MissMoth]

Hello all. I'm Miss Moth and I'm a Switch, leaning a bit more towards being Domme. BDSM has always been a major part of who I am, and I figure as a long time reader at the library, I might as well join the forum.

[Beatrice]

I'm not 100% sure I would call myself a switch but I guess this comes closer than either of the other two categories. I've been interested in BDSM for a long time now and I'm a long time reader of the library. I'm an avid roleplayer and I can play both roles, although I prefer to play the submissive (although many of my roleplays are non-cons and thus the characters can't really be called BDSM submissives in the true sense). I'm also an avid consumer of BDSM literature. In real life, I have experienced BDSM as both a domme and a sub, In both cases, I have a bit of a bad habit of having my own urges switch in the middle of things which is never good, especially when I try not to show it. I have never been in a 24/7 D/s relationship in either role and, while I respect those who find fulfillment in that kind of relationship, I have honestly never felt a need or desire for one for me personally. I am also comfortable in vanilla relationships, sometimes with a little mild kink to spice things up. In addition to BDSM, I have something of a clothes fetish, especially regarding sneakers, socks and panties. I'm currently single. I consider myself a feminist but I understand it to mean that liberated women (and men) are also at liberty to submit, rather out of a submissive sexuality, a personal religious belief or whatever else, as long as its a genuinely free decision. So that's me in a nutshell. Hi.

[hiwiz4u3]

hi interesting post...

[AAR]

Hello there
I'm a male
a switch I have a beautiful willing wife. Come here to experience new kind live.
Eager to recieve input

[sexycazzy]

A switch here, mostly a bottom to play partners, I am now beginning to explore my Topping side in a play scene very soon, and is looking forward to it!

I have introduced myself properly here: http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/sh...875#post513875

[goldenxsurfer]

i am a 22 year old surfer from the beaches of southern california specifically the south bay. i am really interested in some fun and games without the work. i am really mellow and if you want to chat send me a message dont worry about anything im a nice guy and looking to meet new peolple in the los angeles area

[Saucie]

I'm a twenty one year old flight attendant, originally from Tulsa. I've been in touch with my submissive side since I was a child, but only recently have I realized I have a powerful dominant streak. Both come very naturally to me, but rarely with the same person. At any rate, I like to chat with all kinds of people and learn about the fetish community, but let me add this... please no more PM's asking if I'm "a naughty whore who needs to be fucked." I find that presumptuous, not to mention silly. People who can be polite and respectful are invited to message me, though!

[theladystouch]

Funny how difficult a label can be. I guess I qualify as a Switch. While I have generally played the dominate role with past boyfriends, every once in a while I like to be lazy and let someone else make the decisions.

I'm in my 40's, and have been around the fringes of BDSM most of my adult life. Still a novice, if not a newbie, though. Enjoy the culture, reading and writing BDSM fantasies, and playing with the occasional guy or gal if the chemistry is right.

Lady C

[theladystouch]

Hey, Saucie. I couldn't agree more with your sentiments. Hello.

[ALEXlkzgjhrb]

Hello! I am Alex. 28. I am interested in corporal punishment, especialy caning.

[underwhere]

Hi everybody!

I haven't formally introduced myself in this thread, though I did introduce myself in the Introduction forum, so this seems just a tad bit redundant, but maybe its not.

First, I guess you can safely call me a newbie with this stuff, but a newbie who has given a great deal of serious thought to a wide variety of issues as they apply to my interest in s&m/BDSM. As a result of joining a different website, I currently have a wonderful telephone and e-relationship with a magnificent domme who seems quite interested in handling my subbie side. I truly don't think I could have asked for a person more fitting for me. We are in the early phases of making plans for a get-together, and I'm very much looking forward to that. I've also cultivated some nice e-relationships with some subbies. At this point, nothing in that area has become anything more than a casual passing interest (from both sides), but I have been received quite favorably by those subbies.

All of this has given me a chance to explore a lot of thoughts and ideas, but so far, there has been no opportunity for me to explore something in the "here and now", as it were. Admittedly, I'm still nervous about the possibilities, (and some of my personal circumstances do nothing but complicate both how I feel and how such situations might eventually play out) but I'm convinced I am headed in the right direction. Whereas before I was not certain I was truly ready to make such a personal leap, I'm quite certain I am now, and I'm both glad and relieved that I have finally begun to do so.

[Miss_Celeste]

Hello Everyone,

Well I am just finding out a little bit about the BDSM in myself. I am open minded
looking to learn more about anything I can get my hands on. So hopefuly I can find someone to help me out. Thanks

[wolf101]

Hi I'm Wolf101 and I thought Id ask yall about how easy or hard it was to find a partner. If you want to get to know me better message me.

[underwhere]

Hi Wolf101!

Hi I'm Wolf101 and I thought Id ask yall about how easy or hard it was to find a partner. If you want to get to know me better message me.

Finding a partner can be a tricky process. It can take quite a bit of time and effort. Any potential partner worth their salt is probably not going to volunteer right away. They will want to get to know you a bit first, and in turn, you'll probably want to get to know a few things about them too. Appearing desperate is, I'm told, a surefire way to end a relationship before it begins.

I have no experience here, but I've been told that relationships between switches can often be quite tricky as well because, as a general rule, switches don't seem inclined to switch for each other very often. They often choose to find separate people to dom them from those they wish to dom.

One way to make this process go a little easier is to be willing to put out bits and pieces of information about yourself. For example, I have a blog on another BDSM web site and have been an active participant in that community for quite some time. When I got there, I was a complete newbie, and made a wide variety of newbie mistakes. However, I also took the time to sit back and watch and observe. Its amazing how much one can observe and learn from the actions and interactions of others. I've also been very clear on the type of relationships I was looking for, and have been able to express that in a chat room, in forum posts, and on blogs. The more of yourself that you are able to express (and it has to be truthfully!), the more likely people will be inclined to potentially take you under their wing. I am currently a subbie to somebody on that web site. The relationship took several months to materialize. (Read below for how I managed it.)

As a switch, I've been told that it is generally easier to start life out as a subbie as people will be less inclined to play with somebody they perceive to be inexperienced as a dom. I don't know how true that is, but that is what I've been told. Still, its not easy to find a good match. Be prepared to take your time, and just because somebody offers, don't feel like you are forced to give an answer right away. I've been solicited twice to Dom some people, and on both occasions, I've declined because, although I have the desire to explore that side of myself, I'm not sure I could do so if it was not the right person on the other end. So far, online, I've only met two or three people I might actually be willing to Dom. For various reasons, either because they were already committed or because of my own situational circumstances, it hasn't worked out for me yet. I'm hopeful for the future, but I'm also realizing I need to take my time here. Just as I feel I don't want to put myself in peril as a sub to somebody else, I don't want to potentially put somebody else in peril with me as a Dom if I'm not genuinely ready for that opportunity with the specific person involved.

In other words, try not to rush it so much. If you put out enough feelers and clues about yourself, eventually, people will want to get to know you on a more personal level. It never hurts to specifically ask, but don't do so too aggressively or you'll be likely to find yourself without any willing takers.

(Probably, this should be split off into another thread as it clearly will sway from introductions. Is there some way to do that?)

[rora]

Hello,

I am trying my hand at 'switching'. On line switching. I was approached by a couple. She is his Domme/wife and he of course is her sub and husband in real life. She loves for me to tease him, then She reaps the benefits. I have given him a couple of tasks and I have given Her a few ideas.

It has me asking a lot of questions. I am researching, because I know this isn't on line for them. Thanks for all that have helped me. EIther through the forums or questions I have asked in email and pm's.

It is gratifying to know that I have brought them some enjoyment and a little education, and also very frustrating. *laffs* Hmmm I have never told them that.

There is so much talk about the 'gift' of submission and rightfully so, but I am also understanding more and more of what you Dominates go through. I don't think enough is said about that. That is quite a gift in itself. You all have my respect.

[rljohnson68]

I am brand new here and for awhile I will mostly be quiet.I am not shy just cautious.I liken this to having been invited to a party and there is no one you know there.don't want to step on any toes.
I may not be a "true" switch but,my feeling is this,being a sub for someone that realy knows what they are doing can only make me a better dom.OJT,if you will.

R.L.

[Euryleia]

Welcome, y'all.

wolf101-it can be hard to find a r/l partner that meshes completely. I know for me personally, I'm about a 75/25 D/s. I domme in most aspects but like to let go and submit too. If I hook up with a complete submissive or a complete dominant, then my needs don't get met. You've also got to figure out if you can submit to someone you've been dominating and visa versa. I recomend forums like this to learn and seeking out events in your area (like munches). With a little luck and a lot of patience, your search will be rewarded.

rora, glad you're having fun and learning along the way. Sorry you're finding it frustrating (weg)--maybe its time to go r/l?


RL, I think learning from the bottom will help make you a better Top. Even now, I don't try anything out on my girl that I haven't experienced myself.

[someguy365]

Hey, I’m a 21 year old college guy. I’m very new to this and concidure myself a switch mostly because I want to experance everything. The responces on here are really helpful, as is this website, Thanks All

[Phantome]

Wow, I had no idea that I'd never posted here. I'm Phantome (aka Phan), and I'm a lady switch. *aknowledges applause* I am married to my high school sweetheart, who is also a switch. We don't lead a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle (mainly enjoying it in conjunction with our sex life), but we are always willing to try new things and are open to other lifestyles. We like spanking, anal play, corsets, and most recently, breast torture. We are both teachers, and enjoy the arts, history, traveling, and playing with our two rogue kitties.
-Phan, feeling a little bit like she's at an AA meeting

[Delaquoi]

Hi everyone. I'm in a period of thinking a lot about my sexual needs and desires, and made this decision recently - to come out as a switch, and to look for a domme who can help bring out that submissive side in me. I've been dominant overwhelmingly in the past, but have had experiences with submission too, and enjoyed it a lot. This thing about sub-space is very powerful, it is a great freedom and a beautiful state. Problem is I guess that I just can't seem to keep it going - I reach a point where the buzz wears off and I may end up getting frustrated or just amused by the demands put on me. (Or if I'm allowed to cum, then I just loose the submissive feeling straight away.) I wonder if I am just too rebellious, opinionated, demanding to really be submissive? But I want to try it properly, as I find myself thinking and fantasising about submission more frequently of late. Do I just need to meet the right person who will know how to control me? Or, thinking like that, am I being too demanding again?

On another point, thinking about switching, I remember back to some of my earliest childhood (pre-adolescent) sexual fantasies. I wonder if other switches, or maybe even perverts more generally, felt/feel things in a similar way?

As I remember it, in these fantasy-scenes it didn't matter so much that I took a given role - submissive or dominant - in what was taking place. What I was doing as I was daydreaming was letting, telling, watching the scene unfold. I didn't have to be inside the scene myself. (Or maybe that makes me another kind of pervert altogether - a voyeur?)

Then actually, as I remember it, the first times I placed myself in a role within the scene, in my imagination, was that I took the part of the female being humiliated and dominated. The scenes were always hetero with the man on top, but I identified most of all with the female victim. This led me to even wonder at one point in my teens whether what I really wanted was to be a transvestite submissive, and I experimented a little with games like that, but found out that wasn't what I was after.

So as I got into actually doing S&M in real life I tended to take the dominant role, which maybe came easiest - e.g., I found most partners that way, and I got to take my pleasure. But could it be that what really matters to me is not my role in the scene but somehow the scene itself, the dynamics of domination and submission, the story, the event? Does that make sense to anyone?