New Discussion: What's an internet sub for?

[ceegee{Benz}]

I still want to know what this cyber sex thing is...............

[Warbaby1943]

I still want to know what this cyber sex thing is...............

If you're serious why not start a new thread and phrase your question so it may draw some interest.

[mkemse]

Maybe I am wrong, but is wouldseem to me the difference in a D/s relationship R/T vs. R/L is the difference between day and night, you can't compare the 2, they are 2 different thgings, one is fantasy the other reality

[fantassy]

they are 2 different thgings, one is fantasy the other reality

I agree they are different, but I disagree that o/l is fantasy and f2f is reality. I think the amount of fantasy v. reality in ANY relationship varies depending on the persons involved. Surely you have had friends whose perception of their f2f significant other was largely based on their fantasy of what they wanted the person to be or the fantasy the f2f person projected, whether intentionally or subconsciously. Moreover, it is wrong to assume that all online are merely roleplayers.

As to the D/S in particular, again what matters is the compatibility. Some subs need to be grabbed by the hair occasionally to feel submissive - online obviously wouldn't suit that sort of dom. Others get their pleasure from voluntarily giving up control - online is more likely to work.

Neither is better or worse, one just suits some people and the other suits other people.

fantassy

[Sir_Russell]

mkemse I agree partially and I think you actually found the point. They are both real but also very different. F2F also differs in 2 many ways, those that use it as sex play and those that live it.

I have found that F2F is not just my strong suit it is the only way for me to live and enjoy the life. In my old age I guess I am over just playing too.

Those that find what they need in any of these are to be congratulated each takes a certain amount of work to do well.

[Guest 91108]

fantassy , I like the thoughts and direction of both your posts.
This is how i think as well. Those who give a false sense of themselves are not going to have a very successful relationship in either role as they can't maintain it with consistency and eventually it will break. Many of us have seen just such situations.

[Warbaby1943]

Again different strokes for different folks and again the key seems to be honesty and compatibility. On line to me is no fantasy by the way. It works for us and that is all that matters, isn't it?

[Sir_Russell]

Warbaby again it is all real for those who truly live it.

Russell

[Aussiegirl1]

I too want to add that just because my relationship is online, this in no way means it is a fantasy! I do not role play or pretend, every thing I say or do is real. I can understand how someone who has never had an online relationship might think they are all play, but for many of us they are as real as any other relationship in our lives.

I agree too that it really does depend on how compatable you are with your partner and how well you cope without that physical presence of another during play. For me, it works, but I know others who just can't get their head around what it means.

Back to the original question, what an Internet sub if for? for me, it is the same as what any sub is for. My submission is real, my feelings are real, my time I put into the relationship is real. The difference lies in the way the relationship is run.

I know there are people who think online is only for games, and that is fine, but I hope through discussions like this one, everyone can get a bit more understanding of how real and fulfilling an online relationship can be.