H&HSC Mentoring Program...

[bellelapine]

I'll probably ask a LOT more questions than I ever answer, but since I'm anything but shy or modest....if I ask maybe someone too shy to will get the answer? teeehee.

[butterflySlave4u]

bellelapine you need to come hang out at the H&HSC!! we have chocolate!

[bellelapine]

You said chocolate? I luffffffffffffffffsssssssssssssssss chocolate...it is my precious.

*is the fact I said that in gollum's voice a bad sign?*

[butterflySlave4u]

[Tojo]

If I may make a comment.....

This is a great idea IMO- I don't believe I or any Dom can 'train' someone to be a submissive. A D/s relationship is a special bond between two people, who make their own rules.

I can talk to a new sub, ask questions & listen to her thoughts- however, so can other subs. It makes perfect sense for new girls to talk to & listen to other subs.

They know just as much about it as any Dom, & are much less likely to be blowing their own trumpets, or wanting a good time before you're ready.

[butterflySlave4u]

i agree totally, Tojo, and thank You for weighing in, after all, this is a forum!!

While I know that the term “training” is appropriate, i think it’s more of setting limits, between two people. IMHO “submissive” can’t be taught, it’s felt. It’s “within” you. i know that i’m submissive, and have been from a very early age. But i wasn’t able to identify it as such until a wonderful man found me in a vanilla chatroom and opened up my world. NOW i have somewhere that i fit in, and i know my place, my station in life, and i’ll always be grateful to Him for that.

and it's true, there are many here that are new to the Life. Sometimes it scares me, knowing how many young subs are wandering around in here, falling for a line (in print) that they'd never consider listening to in a bar! And what they're looking for HERE is SO much more of a commitment than a one night stand.

also, the number of wannabes, ESPECIALLY in here, wanting to "try it out", and coming in to kick the tires. i had a young dom (note the lack of capitalization) ask me the other day if it would be ok to call me "mommy", because of my age....well, one, we were no where close to entering into a roleplay....two, this was about 4 minutes in, of our FIRST contact, and third, i knew NOTHING about the guy (and i'm assuming it was male, as IT wasn't terribly forthcoming with the info!) And as i laughed and walked away, leaving him with his “throbbing babyhood” in his hand, it occurred to me that if i was less experienced than i am at weeding out the the twits, if i hadn't known that something THAT stupid could happen, i'd be back there breastfeeding him right now! LOL!........but the truth is, it DOES happen, and our subbies need to be aware of it...this place is not a meat market, it's where like minded people meet to converse, share ideas, and possibly connect, and they need to know that.