Why is humiliation a turn on?

[brwneydgirl]

I am finding it hard to understand why I find humiliation to be such a turn-on, and I was wondering if any subs had thoughts on what makes it a turn on

Humiliation is such a large topic...and as with any large topic, there are degrees. I do enjoy some aspects of humiliation (and to TheSeeker: embarrassment can be part of that...). Some of the enjoyment I receive is a bit worrisome to me...like, why do I get off hearing/doing things that others find offensive (and I mean other subs...)?

On one side of the spectrum, you have fairly mild verbal humiliation...name calling and such: Filthy slut, cum hole...etc. To some, this may be pushing the envelope further than they want it pushed. Meanwhile, I'm screaming...give me more! On the other side of the spectrum are things I probably can't even imagine (okay, maybe I can...but I'm trying to stay on-topic) and it's further than I'd like to go with humiliation...

I guess the trick is to find where, on the spectrum, YOU like to be...discuss it with your partner (hope that he/she is willing--that's sort of important as I've come to find out) and have fun without being overly concerned about it. Dwelling and worrying too awfully much can sometimes kill the pleasure/excitment.

[His little one]

Humiliation is such a large topic...and as with any large topic, there are degrees. I do enjoy some aspects of humiliation (and to TheSeeker: embarrassment can be part of that...). Some of the enjoyment I receive is a bit worrisome to me...like, why do I get off hearing/doing things that others find offensive (and I mean other subs...)?

On one side of the spectrum, you have fairly mild verbal humiliation...name calling and such: Filthy slut, cum hole...etc. To some, this may be pushing the envelope further than they want it pushed. Meanwhile, I'm screaming...give me more! On the other side of the spectrum are things I probably can't even imagine (okay, maybe I can...but I'm trying to stay on-topic) and it's further than I'd like to go with humiliation...

I guess the trick is to find where, on the spectrum, YOU like to be...discuss it with your partner (hope that he/she is willing--that's sort of important as I've come to find out) and have fun without being overly concerned about it. Dwelling and worrying too awfully much can sometimes kill the pleasure/excitment.

I guess I had never really thought about the verbal stuff as humiliation, but the spectrum is moving and I'm okay with that. I think I find being okay with it almost more of a mind fuck than the actions themselves lol. Good point about dwelling and worrying, both common occurences for me in most aspects of life. Thank you for the insightful reply.

[TheSeeker]

his little one I would like to turn your question back on you
how do you feel towards your Master after he humiliates you?

[His little one]

his little one I would like to turn your question back on you
how do you feel towards your Master after he humiliates you?

Ummmm...awe, respect, adoration, completely owned...still trying to figure that out myself lol.

[TheSeeker]

have you ever had regrets after being humiliated?