Strange Problem

[Solis]

Too, I'm not at all sure that the problem qualifies as "strange." "Damned annoying and frustrating," certainly, but not necessarily strange. About 10% of all women report that they can't achieve orgasm; the medical term is "anorgasmia." I've linked to a good article from the Mayo Clinic. They note that the condition is common, that it might serve from physical, psychological or relationship issues, and that there are a number of interventions from lifestyle changes to hormone therapies.

Question One might be diagnostic: what's up? Were you taught early on that sex was bad (or traumatic)? If you think back to your horniest teen years, was it still a challenge? Or were you wonderfully predatory for part of your life, then discovered changes creeping in? If so, what accompanied them?

The girls are apt to be able to offer infinitely better insight than I can, but I will note that my own interest in sex dropped sharply after marriage, bottomed out at zero for a long while, but has rebounded remarkably following my divorce and the arrival of a very sensuous, wriggly sub in my life. Given that she took her own damn good time about showing up, I find myself in the odd position of being older and (reportedly) sexier than I would have imagined. Which is to say, there's reason for hope.

S.

[kwdsslave]

kkb67- Thank you for the kind words. Definitely working with a lot right now.

Solis- I read the link, thank you so much. I had no idea there was an actual name for it. I knew about medications possibly playing a part, and my doctors recently switched around my antidepressants and fibromyalgia meds in hopes of helping all around, unsuccessfully. It probably stems a lot from my upbringing (strict catholic), and past traumas. I may bring it up with my doctor at my next physical (I am a disabled vet, and it is hard to get in to see my doc at the VA unless during out biannual appointment). Now that I am not in a intimate relationship, I figured it would be the best time to start sorting things out with me...and less time trying to save my marriage, since the hubby has already checked out...

Thank you again.