Lets get the obvious out of the way. You explain your feelings, discuss it, suggest you try it etc etc. This will result in 3 outcomes.

1. She goes for it to a level that satisfies you. - Problem solved.
2. She goes for a lower level (furry handcuffs) that is better than nothing but not enough.
3. Not a chance of even a nipple tweak - This is highly unlikely since almost all females are hardwired to accept some degree of kinkiness. Look at the popularity of 50 shades.

The situation is probably option 2. We can assume that you will give it time and seek to "groom" her by starting off with small things (shallow end) and slowly trying to move to bigger things (deep end). And we assume you've reached a point where she cannot be nudged further and this level is not enough for you.

You have following options.

1. Its the end of the relationship, you leave her to find somebody who satisfies your needs.

2. You give up your desire for the sake of keeping her. People can give up drugs, smoking, drinking, gambling, career, friends, family. life, liberty etc for love of a woman so I dont think giving up the crop is an impossibility. And you will probably have some degree of bdsm at the shallow end so its not totally lost.

3. You satisfy your desire in a way she can accepts eg porn movies, ol play or even rl play (unlikely she accept).
This may be a solution for a while but it may act as reminder of what you are missing like giving up booze and drinking non alcholic beer. It may be easier to give up totally than drink weak beer (pardon the analogy).

4. You go behind her back and get from mistress what she wont give you. This may seem ideal short term solution and is what most me do BUT it is destined to end in tears with you being caught out and losing her.

5. Join the monastery and give up her and sex both.

I suspect you are hoping that some wiz kid here comes up with the magic solution that enables you to keep your kink and the girl. I cant see other possible options to the above other than your powers of persuasion convincing her to get more kinky. Assuming you've done all you can and there is no doctor who can do a stepford wife job on her, that road is exhausted.

They say no pain no gain my friend, well for you the pain is losing the kink to gain the girl. Look on the bright side, it could be worse, you could have had to give up bowling on Friday night !

There is no greater love than to lay down one's flogger for one's wife.


Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his flogger for his vanilla wife.
John 15:13 The BDSM Bible