Mistakes by a Dom/me

[Rhabbi]

I don't get this infallible Dom thing.

I do not either, but to me it seems to come more from the Domme side than from us. Do not get me wrong, I know that they are out there, but I usually class them as abusers and stay away from them, because all they are are power freaks.

But the Dommes who want to be called Goddess, they are differant. I guess the reason I cannot figure them is because I cannot relate on a personle level to a Domme, other than as a friend, that is.

It doesn't have to mean groveling. Aknowledging the misstake, understanding her emotions and explaining how I feel about it and what I'll do to minimise it happening again is what I do.

I wonder thoigh, if a mistake is bad enough, should we grovel? Sometimes it might be the only way to show the depth of our anguish.

One characteristic I do think is important for a good Dom is bravery, and that means an ability to critisize oneself in a constructive way. A man too proud to admit fault in a conflict is just a big coward.

Not the way I would say it, but definately to the point.

[precious]

I wonder thoigh, if a mistake is bad enough, should we grovel? Sometimes it might be the only way to show the depth of our anguish.

If the sub truly knows you then groveling shouldn't be a factor. You can state Your anguish without having to grovel and if the sub is looking for You to grovel my guess is there is a secondary issues in there somewhere that needs attention. And in some ways... i think groveling, especially at the incorrect times, can have as much of a negative effect on my respect level for someone as if they didn't admitting to the mistake to start with. Guess that would depend a large part on the sincerity of the initial apology and such... otherwise it would be a trust loss issue for me then.

Just me 2 cents worth again....

[Rhabbi]

Just me 2 cents worth again....

Your 2 cents is worth more than that to me.