Define "Lifestyle."

When J and I have the opportunity to get together and actually spend an extended amount of time with each other, no, I don't default to wandering around the house in nothing but cuffs and a collar and calling him Master every time I address him. He can certainly ask for that at most any time, but it's a little impractical for us 24/7.

The D/s relationship we share is not the foremost aspect of everything we do, so much as a compliment to our friendship and romantic relationship, and a way to express ourselves on a different and deeper level. Yes, it is a flowing undercurrent all the time, as any passionate exchange between two people is, but we certainly do not live in a constant "scene."

Most days, the vestiges of the lifestyle reveal themselves in mainly subtle and entirely non sexual ways: the second thought I have before saying something snide or disrespectful, the ways I try to consider him (even when he's not here) before making a decision, just the little ways I find myself thinking of him and wishing to please him.