Lifestyle vs Fantasy...How many play which the most?!?

[darkgame]

Thanks Amber...


Yes i probably could have been a little bit more specific in my post. No i didnt really mean walking around in cuffs/bowing to Master everytime he enters the room, infact I'm not sure what exactly i was trying to ask/compare after reading your post

I like your description that "the D/s relationship is more an aspect of everything you both do," compared to one long scene or something.


I suppose I was wondering if you both go vanilla for sometime *for whatever reason* in between private times @ home or what not. Sorry my question is very general, but it DID have some specifics to it, but your post was just too good

[DowntownAmber]

Thanks Amber...


Yes i probably could have been a little bit more specific in my post. No i didnt really mean walking around in cuffs/bowing to Master everytime he enters the room, infact I'm not sure what exactly i was trying to ask/compare after reading your post

I like your description that "the D/s relationship is more an aspect of everything you both do," compared to one long scene or something.


I suppose I was wondering if you both go vanilla for sometime *for whatever reason* in between private times @ home or what not. Sorry my question is very general, but it DID have some specifics to it, but your post was just too good

Perhaps you're just trying to put your finger on the difference between "kinky" and "Lifestyle?"

I know my fair share of couples that periodically bust out handcuffs or spank each other a little in the bedroom, but that's all the further they venture out of the vanilla world. They don't talk about their scenes, about subspace, about conducting themselves in any way, shape, or form as a D/s couple etc. etc. outside of their immediate bedroom action.

On the other hand, delving into the psychology of what it is that we do, consciously making submissive or Dominant gestures toward our partner, being aware to the point we actually identify ourselves as a Lifestyle couple; well, that's going a little above and beyond your basic kink I would say.

And now, I will shut up and let other people talk.