Just words?

[yama]

Without any pretension, describing only my feelings, words are very important. Extremely important in online play. In the thread "Why slut?" many explained how offended they feel if called "slut" by people who have no right to do so. I fully admit they are right, they have their human dignity and it can't be ignored. But I must say that if i am called "slut", even if by a stranger, I feel otherwise. I feel that the rigid forms are transcended and we entered an intimacy where I am naked, ashamed, exposed to the other's whims and whip. This arouses me. Being called "little one" curiously has the same effect but much more strongly. So an abusive word may work like a tender word. The common element is the transgression of the limits of formalities, entering intimacy.

In real life I have only one BDSM relationship, with my girlfriend Lila. She speaks always tenderly, never using degrading words. But she likes mockery. And I love her mockery very much. She has her indescribably sweet way of mocking me while I am suffering. For example, "How do your knees feel, my dear?", when she makes me kneel on rice. And me replying: "Fine, thanks, dear", when they hurt like hell. But I think it is only Lila whose mockery touches me as sweet. It is not the words but the person, in this case.

A humble thank for your kind attention.

[Lisais mine]

In real life I have only one BDSM relationship, with my girlfriend Lila. She speaks always tenderly, never using degrading words. But she likes mockery. And I love her mockery very much. She has her indescribably sweet way of mocking me while I am suffering. For example, "How do your knees feel, my dear?", when she makes me kneel on rice. And me replying: "Fine, thanks, dear", when they hurt like hell. But I think it is only Lila whose mockery touches me as sweet. It is not the words but the person, in this case.

A humble thank for your kind attention.

Okay, that's hot. I like to do that too- saying "oh, you poor dear" >

[yama]

Okay, that's hot. I like to do that too - saying "oh, you poor dear"

And does your girl enjoy it, Sir? Mockery can be more devastating
than the pain itself or the offensive names. I think the personal
element is very important here - as it is shown in other posts
of this excellent thread.

[Lisais mine]

And does your girl enjoy it, Sir? Mockery can be more devastating
than the pain itself or the offensive names. I think the personal
element is very important here - as it is shown in other posts
of this excellent thread.

yeah- she says it's her favorite.

[yama]

yeah- she says it's her favorite.

Just like Lila and me. Thank you, Sir.

[jeanne]

What words get me going....hmmmm. 'girl' is a nice word. 'slut' is so very yummy at certain heated times (like when my body is crying out for an orgasm...and I'm not allowed to beg). 'bitch' even gets me at the right moment.

None of these words feel humiliating to me. They are freeing in a way - permission to be my most primal self.

Humiliating words would be things like 'skin-and-bones', 'old', 'ugly', 'worthless'... Those types of degrading words would hurt. Not in a good way. I often wonder why. I've come to the conclusion that it's pride. I'm proud to be a submissive. I take pride in pleasing my Owner and in being compliant. The objectification aspect of submitting that I find the most satisfying is being His toy. His plaything. As such, I need to feel beautiful and proud.