True Control

[silverwind{MN}]

It is the dom/mes who THINK they have total control to whom it is an illusion. Control is held by both parties, but the dominant is the one who maintains the lead and remains in charge, thus satisfying both their needs and the needs os their subs.

well said, Mistress.. it takes both Control and surrendering that control, then building the trust and love.. that so that the relationship can grow to were it am today.

[DJade]

well said, Mistress.. it takes both Control and surrendering that control, then building the trust and love.. that so that the relationship can grow to were it is today.

Thank you, my pet. You are a prime example of my views. Many of us dominants want to think we have total control. I am even one of them. But while total control may be an illusion, partial control is not. The only real total control may be self control, but even that is hard to achieve! As long as we dominants at least TRY to understand this concept, we will be better off and more able to perpetuate a relationship in which false and abusive control is non existent.