BDSM clubs - submitting to (or dominating) 'strangers'

[denuseri]

It all depends on the individuals involved.

And not all clubs are the same, some promote no sexual contact, and others sometimes encourage it.

Alltough the emotional differences were not what was asked about initially, I assumed one would understand that there is also a hudge emotional difference between being in a regulated enviroment such as a club where a dungeon monitor may pull any dominant off his or her submissive the second they see things go too far and being off somewhere unregulated by one'self and at the complete and utter mercy of one or more others (somthing that simply cant happen in a club) where one is really and truely not the one in control anymore no matter what one may or may not have aggreed to before hand safe word or not. Becuase lets face it...no matter how much one may think they know another they can always be wrong. Real trust must be re-afirmed with real deeds, over a real course of extended time. The longer one knows another the more one can trust them is not nessesarally always true eaither. Wishful thinking doesnt change the practicality of whats actually happening.

The fear of the unknown will always be there if in no other way than in an unconsious manner. Which is probabely why some believe that:

Confrontation of one's own fear is a key stepping stone on the path of earning of one's stripes.

How many submissives and dominants are or are not polyamourous and what degree of submission or domininance one sees of course will vary between individuals and depend upon what is and is not allowed in the enviroment in which they are conducting their business and by their own natural inclinations conserning such things.

People do indeed go off with complete strangers all the time, the phenomena of the one night stand is in no way shape or form restricted to exclussively vanila dating scenes by any means.